Tuesday, September 16, 2014

The BFF You Need To Be A Success!

 I hate you! I love you!  I'm happy! I'm sad.  I'm hungry.  I'm (_______) fill in the blank and it is real.  Language shapes our Reality.  Period.  How we feel about the choices we make is solely dependent on the language we use to describe our experience.

If you put on last season's suit and your partner compliments you, do you say,  "Thank you" or do you have an internal frenemy that says "It's too tight, my butt is too big, it's the wrong color...blah blah blah....".  Does your frenemy undermine you?

If you had just said thank you and accepted the praise, then your brain would have had been forced to have a conversation that validated all those giddy feelings.

If you let your frenemy take up residence, then all your brain can do is draw attention to and remember how you THINK you used to look.   Which may or may not be true.

Life is about language and stories.  What story are you telling yourself that is shaping your reality? 

Are you cursing the rush hour traffic or  are you **greatfull**you have a car?  

Business relationships, mergers, and acquisitions are all essentially the same thing.   It's more than one entity coming together to make something bigger, not necessarily better, but bigger.

The words you use with your employees on that realtionship, partnership, merger, acquisiton, or hostile takeover directly impacts the success of the event and the team.  

The words you use with your children become their internal voices. Growing their vocabulary and your own gives everyone an opportunity to have more choices for better outcomes.

It's time to break up with the small minded Frenemy.  For success in life, relationships and business ,you have to make language your (BFF).   It alone has the power to frighten,  frustrate,  feed,  feel, and ultimately find you.  

Feeling Brave? Comment Below what Frenemy is moving out of your house today!



Seanlai Cochrane is a rockstar communication speaker that helps leaders play like a PRO and keep their talent, grow profits, and power by the competition.  
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